My Latest Skin Care Regimen

I'm all about good skin care and since I love wearing makeup so much and like going out with a makeup-free face from time to time, babying my skin is an essential part of my everyday routine. I'm excited to share my new combination of skin care products that compliment and work for me! Disclaimer: It may seem like a load of products but I do however interchange between them based on whether I wear makeup or not that day.

Why I Cut My Hair

The first time I cut my hair was back in 2010, it was a gradual thing. I went from long, to a bob, to a pixie. I did it because I was bored and wanted a change. From 2010 up until now I went natural and my hair grew a little bit passed my shoulders. Within the last 6 years, my hair has been dyed every color in the book. Brown. Blue Black .Red. Blonde. And everything in between. 

My very first pixie in 2010

I have had long hair all my life, it was kind of like my trademark. As black women, reaching a long hair length is considered a badge of honor. So when you all of a sudden cut it... combined the inquisitive look, you will receive the infamous question "Girl Why did you cut off all your hair?" So if you will keep reading, you will find out why I indeed did cut all my hair off... again. I broke it down to 3 main reasons.

Why it was dope to be a young black girl in 90's

Growing up as adolescent in the 1990's was awesome. Television was great, the toys were legendary and the theme songs and jingles were constantly embedded into my brain. But one thing that stood out during that era was "us." Black girls were depicted in such a positive light. There was a sense of pride, happiness and lightheartedness that exuded through our television sets.  There were so many products, songs, and characters a young African-American girl could relate to. So let’s take a brief journey with me back down memory lane as I dig up all the gems that brought me so much joy as a kid. Maybe for you too!

Vintage green makeup look

I was feeling a little green and artistic. I had a few new products that  I purchased a while and wanted to experiment with them.Want to know what I used to create this look? Keep scrolling! Oh and a disclaimer...I'm not a professional, I just enjoy makeup and the art of it. Be nice!

Before you say yes

I've been wanting to write this post for quite some time ...it's been on my heart and now I finally got the courage enough to do so. So here it goes...


Marriage is and can be a beautiful thing when it is done in God's timing. So many times us as women are in such a hurry to be someone's "Mrs" that we fail to ask God what does He want...who does He have saved for me? We end up missing out on God's blessing because to us He is not moving fast enough, and then we end up settling. We settle based on comfort and familiarity. He may be your high school sweetheart, you may have a child together, or you've been together for while, you don't want to be alone or start over with someone else....but is he the guy that God chose for you? Another question...are you supposed to be married? Yes, it's not an easy pill to swallow. But with all that being said, there are just certain qualities and standards that your future mate should possess. Love and being in love is great...but it's not enough to make a good mate. I'm just being real!

As Tina Turner would say "What's love got to do with it?" Just kidding!

To my engaged, future engaged and single ladies, I am by no means an expert. What I say is not the end all. But as a married woman, I feel these few thoughts and questions may help someone make the right decision.  I'm still learning myself! There are a ton of aspects on marriage to consider and to really think about.  I wanted to share the qualities that are most important to me.  This post is just the scratching the surface but here are a few things  you should look for in a future husband...

Being equally yoked


2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?


Yes he may of grew up in the church. Maybe his dad is a minister. He goes to church every now and then. He'll show up a few Sundays to keep you quiet for a while.That's good enough right? Wrong! If you want a man of God...that is exactly what he should be...a man of God.  Does he have a true relationship with God?  Just because you both believe in the same thing doesn't necessarily mean you are equally yoked, that is an extreme misconception. His relationship with God should be evident. Does he pray? Does he go to bible study? Is he active in the church or community? Is he constantly trying to pursue God? Does he truly want to get closer to God not just you.


What are his future plans and goals?

Proverbs 29:18 Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
 
A man without a plan or goal is dangerous! He can't possibly lead you anywhere if he doesn't know where he's going. He should have some sense of direction.Is he a leader? Is he actively pursuing his goals? Are his goals positive? Is he focused or consistent? Is he going to school? Does he ever want to own a home?Where does he see you and him in the future. Does he want to have a family? You have to discuss theses things together. Your plans and goals should line up together. If one wants to live in New York but the other one wants to move to Arizona...would one of you compromise?



Finances and Work Ethic

Once you're married his finances are your finances. His debt is your debt. Whether it's good or bad, his current financial situation can greatly effect you once you jump the broom. Can he provide for you?Is he a saver or a spender? Is he cheap or sensible? Does he pay his bills on time? What are his priorities? If he spends his money on top dollar rims before his car insurance, that is a problem. You both should discuss things from life insurance to health insurance. And let's face it, the economy is rough. Of course God is our provider but what would be his plan of attack when the money gets tight?  You want someone who can hold on to a respectable job. Unless he's on a career path, jumping from job to job often shows instability. Financial security is vital.


Appearance and Self care

It may sound superficial but let's be honest, we all would like someone that is easy on the eye. Now it's important not to get carried away with this....you know... he has to be 6'2 , dark with muscles kinda thing. You can miss out on your blessing by being too picky. But a well groomed man shows that he takes pride and respects himself. Does he get a hair cut regularly? Is he clean? How does he dress? Does he exercise? Does he smoke or drink?  His upkeep represents his out look on life. When you're married, you are joined as one, so how he carries himself is a representation of you.



Character/Personality 

Proverbs 22:1
A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold.


Is he faithful? 
Is he honest? Trustworthy?
Is he responsible?
Does possess moral integrity?
Does he believe in abstinence or celibacy? 
Is he a man of his word?
Ugh there is nothing worse than someone who says they're going to do something and it results in no follow through. Something as simple as him saying he's going to pick up some dinner and he doesn't, can make your skin crawl. Sounds minor but it can greatly affect your future and cause years of frustration and disappointment. Further along in life  it could potentially be something more major such as a mortgage payment. Consistency is what to look out for. Is he giving, or patient, ambitious, kind. Is he outgoing or more laid back? Does he like going out a lot or would he rather rent a movie and relax at home.  How does he treat his mother or family?How does he treat YOU...in AND out of public? You have to decide what characteristics are most important and pray on it. What you want is not always whats best for you. Pray to get what you NEED.

All the questions and concerns you have with each other should be discussed  PRIOR and DURING the engagement. That can really help prevent a future disaster. Seeing a pastor or counselor for premarital counseling is crucial. Many pastors make it mandatory in order to marry.

In conclusion, stay prayerful. Ask God to reveal to you what He wants you know about your potential mate. Any doubt  or uncertainty in any area of the relationship that you have, take it to God. You never I repeat never settle when you know things aren't right. It may not be the right time to marry him or he may not be the right one. Only you can decipher your limits or deal breakers.

Remember,no one is perfect, we all have flaws, but there are certain aspects and characteristics that he should uphold. Most likely what he does now is what he will do when you're married. Everything intensifies. It is not your job to change a man! It is only God who can change the heart. Pray for your future husband while you wait.

And ladies let's not forget what sense is it to have a long list of qualities that you yourself do not posses. Be what you desire to have!

One love!

Courtney aka The Odd Black Girl


Photo by Sarah Bridgeman
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Fuchsia Valentine

Hey my loves! Valentine's Day is vastly approaching.What makeup look do you have planned for that special day? Why not spice it up with some bright and bold hues? I haven't done a full makeup look in quite some time. I completed this look with a mixture of drugstore and high end products, you will definitely make statement! Hope you enjoy!

The Black Introvert: REVAMPED!!

Throughout my entire childhood I was quiet. An introverted black girl that is. Nothing dramatic or tragic happened in my life to be that way. Shocking to some, that's just who I was; and for the most part who I am today.

I was always teased by peers for my introverted ways.They had no problem constantly bringing it to my attention. I can still hear it now, the comments from teachers,classmates,or others making statements like "Courtney's too quiet" or asking me "Why are you so quiet?" Did there really have to be a reason? The sarcastic flare inside me desired to rebuttal "Why do you talk so much?" or "Just let me be!"